Friday, July 26, 2019

How to Dress More Modestly and Feminine | Traditional Life






If one more person says to me “why are you so dressed up?” or “where are you going?” I’m going to throw a fit! Just explode! Living in this modern generation equates dressing “lazy” or “dressing down”. If anyone dares wears a simple sundress or wedges it’s believed they must be overdressed. This reminds me of a time a cashier asked me if I work in Hollywood – as she noticed I was wearing in a floral sundress with simple black flats. Speechless. 


We must face it. America has arrived at a time where looking your best is no longer valued. Going to work, running errands, shopping and visiting family and friends do not require putting in effort in appearance anymore. Rolling up in sweat pants, overused flip flops and a graphic T-shirt or hoody is now considered comfortable. Not for me.

We now live in a time where the mindset of “do what makes you happy” or “dress however you wanna dress” is prevalent; however, when a woman decides to dress modestly or more feminine, she’s seen as overly dressed or even oppressed. But I thought we can do or dress how we wanna dress? Since the women’s liberation movement became infested in society a few decades ago, wearing revealing and sexualized clothes is now a normality among women’s fashion. Modesty is seen as boring. Revealing is empowerment.


If a woman decides to wear a dress it’s believed the dress should have some revealing qualities to it. If the dress comes off as modest, it’s seen as boring, ugly or overly dressed. It’s so sad.


During the vintage times, it was a social value of dressing your best for all occasions. Not only because you never know who you’d run into or dressing up for church, but it demonstrates an appreciation of being a woman or man. Covering your body doesn’t mean you’re boring, it means you are not displaying a sexual advertisement for drawing male attention. (And yes I will dive deeper into women feeling oppressed for not wearing revealing clothes due to male attention in a future post). During the vintage times, women understood this notion. They understood a man will get to know you based on your character and personality, not what your body is displaying.




Dressing modestly and feminine is a significant virtue of maintaining a vintage lifestyle. It’s a way of telling modern society that we are preserving our innocence and not partake in an overly sexualized culture alike the modern times. It’s a virtue behaving like a lady and carrying ourselves with respect. There is some power in dressing modestly and feminine – besides making one stand out.




In the video below I discuss seven tips on how to dress more modestly and feminine during this day and age. Unfortunately, it’s a lost gem in the fashion world. I get excited seeing other women reject sexualized and lazy clothing. Attention should be drawn to your character, not body.

Of course, dressing modestly with feminine charm doesn’t have to be boring at all! There’s a plethora of styles, accessories and trendy clothing items to select that matches your personality. Dressing modestly is contingent on the overall location, setting and activity that you are engaging in.




In the next video below, I discuss how to dress modestly in the summertime. I often see comments on women stating it’s too darn hot to dress with layers. As I lived in very hot states, I still managed to dress modestly, as a majority of my wardrobe has modest and feminine styles.




Although I am showing skin with some outfits in the video – I figured a majority of women can acknowledge how skin can be shown but still in a feminine way.

I choose to dress modestly and feminine as a personal choice and as a Christian fundamental. I still dressed modestly even when I was out-of-touch with my faith a few years ago.

As we blossom into strong feminine women, our mindsets begin to change. I hope you’re able to discover your modest side during your feminine journey!


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How I Went from Being a Career-Driven Woman to an Aspiring Housewife!




When we ask little girls or teenage girls what they hope to become when they grow up, we usually hear responses such as “a lawyer!” “an astronaut!” “a teacher!” “a doctor!” or “a business woman!”. We never hear a young girl say I want to be “a mother!” or “a homemaker!” anymore.

Why is this?

With progressive liberalism occurring in the modern Western world, many young women, including myself, have been indoctrinated to take on masculine roles. Women are celebrated when they appear to be strong, independent, career-driven women. However, housewives and stay-at-home mothers are seen as weak, lack of ambition and a failure. Feminism is extremely embedded so deeply in society that we are conditioned to believe a woman must hold a high career path in order to be taken seriously.

I’ve been conditioned into this indoctrination. I was blind, but now I see. Here’s my personal story on how I attempted to be a high-ambitious career girl to an aspiring vintage housewife. I hope this story inspires you to really see beyond society’s strict standards of what a modern woman should be.

In the beginning, after high school, I desired earning a degree like every other modern person. I felt it was the right thing to do – like everyone else. I felt pressured that a degree is necessary in order to earn a top-notch paying job and to stand out against the crowd in the competitive workforce. I was conditioned to believe women ought to be financially independent – that is – have their own place, own car, own money in the bank account and can be able to afford their own traveling, shopping and expenses.

Little did I know myself as I walked off the stage with my new Bachelor’s degree in hand. I was conditioned to believe the lies of what modern society promotes for young women to believe.




Let’s go back a little further. I started working my first job at fourteen years old. It was an easy job for a teenager…it consisted of community service work around my town. That’s when I realized the workforce felt strange to me. Anxiety would rush in. I simply didn’t understand at that age what was going on. Since my early days of working I always felt out-of-place – as if I didn’t belong in the place I was working. I didn’t feel like workforce material. Unfortunately, while growing up I was only taught one choice of life which was to work and create an independent life for myself. As society also encouraged this, I did as told.



Over the years I worked many different jobs after graduating and worked on building a

career in show business. I even went the hardcore career-woman route and enrolled in graduate school and received my Master’s degree within three years. After receiving my graduate degree I felt I can finally enter the workforce and obtain the job I really wanted of teaching community college. I figured having this degree would definitely allow me to stand out against other candidates…yeah like thousands of other candidates. Ha!

I then moved to Los Angeles and worked in theatre for a few months. After leaving Los Angeles I did some deep soul searching and realized my God-given gift of domesticated skills. Living at home over the years helped contributed to this realization as well.

I finally realized my calling and my energy shifted. I conducted research on how the housewife is no longer desired or appreciated in modern times. It’s like I was born in the wrong time period where being a mother and helper to my husband is no longer accepted. 




If you feel this way, you are not alone. I believe women should continue having a choice of either being a career women or mothers. Feminism got it all wrong – every woman was not oppressed or trying to seek fulfillment by competing with men in the workplace. Women only wanted to be recognized, admired and given the same attention as their male counterparts while running a household. If you went down the same path of putting in effort to become an independent career woman, I feel for you. There’s still time and there’s still hope. Connect with me and I can help guide you back to God’s will.

It’s unfortunate to say that the modern American culture does give women a choice anymore. If you desire to be a mother or homemaker you are immediately the devil or weird. Feminism has led us to believe that serving our employer is freedom but serving our husband and children is slavery. Just nearly 50 years ago, women were expected to manage a household and children as a traditional value. Now today, women are expected to manage their career and give less attention to their household and children. What flipped the switch?!

Proverbs 14:1 couldn’t state it better: every a wise woman builds her home; a foolish woman plucketh it down with her hands. Plucketh means to tear down. 


I will have plenty more blog posts about homemaking tips and how to become traditional. Be sure to follow via Instagram for more vintage life.


Monday, July 22, 2019

Modernism Versus Traditionalism - The Obvious but Unnoticeable Difference




What is the difference between modernism and traditionalism? How does it correlate with being liberal and conservative? In this blog post I will explain the difference between the two. It’s important to understand the difference between modernism and traditionalism – or being liberal or conservative while maintaining a vintage lifestyle. With the rapid growth of progressiveness over the last decades, it is now apparently strong in the 21st century. Liberalism and modernism has been fully embedded into the fabric of society. We can see the backlash of modernism and liberalism in education, schools, science, dating, the media, fashion and many more institutions. 




The fundamental purpose of maintaining a vintage lifestyle is to not show off vintage fashion for likes on social media – but it’s to engage in a part of history where times were much simpler. It’s a lifestyle of having less technology, less pressure to conform to society’s standards of living and preserving traditional values among family, marriage, community and work.



Often when we meet other vintage enthusiasts they tend to have a desire for modernism and liberalism while maintaining a vintage appeal. This may be confusing to other authentic vintage lifestylists and other vintage enthusiasts as it defeats the purpose of rejecting modern times as an old soul. It shows how modern progressiveness controls our minds to become completely void of traditional life.


Let's quickly take a look at the key characteristics of modernism and traditionalism:


Modernism:



The idea of progressing mankind isn’t anything new. Mankind has always figured out new innovations in order to advance – the spear, the wheel, clothing, horse and carriage, trains, automobiles and the list goes on and on. The idea of modernism that we know of today was first conceptualized towards the end of the 20th century. The idea of rapidly producing to consume and pushing, new innovations, moving to the city, new fashion trends, social protesting caused society to progress towards liberalism – or freedom – of living with a disregard to traditional life. 

The key characteristics of modernism are:

-Rejection of religious and moral principles.
-Rejection of traditional systems including arts, science, education, philosophy, history, family, marriage, community and work
-Desire of freedom of expression, experimentation, exploring sexuality orientation, exploring gender identity and incest.
-Control of free speech and revising human nature
-Believes in social constructions and trends

Of course, not all modern or liberal individuals believe in the same concepts, but for the most part - the majority does. The crucial foundation of modernism is to “produce more to consume more” which I interpret not only as overindulgence on spending but a means to capitalize off of suffrage and victimhood. The word “liberal” became popular towards the 21st century. Liberalism is associated with modernism.

Traditionalism:


Being traditional is the original human way of living. Traditionalism teaches us to live with limits and be content. 



The key characteristics of traditionalism are:

-Traditional folks tend to maintain values presented by religion and the Bible
- Seeks the divine truth - whether than finding the truth through society
-Traditionalists like to keep the natural order of things and dislike the disruption of natural order
-Reluctant to new ideas, new innovations, technology, gadgets, science, societal change, social constructs and trends
- Doesn't get entirely involved in political affairs, societal movements, protests, etc. 
-The word “conservative” is associated with traditionalism. 





As humans we all desire happiness and fulfillment. Driven by greed and demon-like behavior, man became the enemy of man. Many people wonder how producing more to consume more lead to human development and happiness. People are consuming more than ever but are not happy from within. Is technology necessary for the growth of mankind? Does the push for science lead to the divine truth over nature?

As we may notice a majority of modern, liberal individuals tend to carry an angry, victimized demeanor meanwhile traditional individuals tend to be happier and carefree. Why is this? Well when you’re in tune with a simpler way of seeing life and humanity, disagreements and history doesn’t bother as much – and this is the foundation of traditionalism as well. Traditional values will always continue to ensure human emotions, happiness and the divine truth of human nature.



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Friday, July 12, 2019

My Authentic Vintage Glove Collection | Vintage Fashion




Gloves have always been a favorable accessory in women’s fashion for many decades. In today’s generation gloves are mainly used for warmth, gardening, medical or for dirty work. Back in the vintage days, gloves were an absolute fashion accessory and served as a purpose as well. There is a long purposeful history on women’s gloves during the vintage times that I’d like to dive more into in a future blog post.





In this new blog post, I’m going to show you my authentic vintage glove collection!

I usually purchase my vintage gloves at flea markets or antique stores. The reason being is to ensure that the gloves are authentically vintage. I often examine the stitching – which most likely means it was handmade. It’s even better if it has that antique smell!




In the video below I present all my gloves with more details. Thanks for watching!








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Tuesday, July 02, 2019

How to Use a Hot Comb - Technique Tutorial | Black Vintage Hairstyling





We all remember the hot combing days. We would sit in the kitchen listening to old school music as we watched our mothers or grandmothers heat up the stove to the highest temperature. You felt a sense of happiness that your hair is going to be done and will look pretty, but yet you cringed because of the thought of the hot comb touching your scalp or burning your ear. “Hold your ear” your grandma or mother would say. You did as told.


Learning the technique of the hot comb isn’t hard. In fact, it’s quite easy. It’s just the matter of how the hair feeds into the comb as it glides down at an angle.



In the video below, I provide a step-by-step 1940’s vintage inspired instructional tutorial on how to use the hot comb on natural Black hair. I also give a brief history on the hot comb – and where it originated from.


In my next blog post and YouTube video I will explaining the pros and cons on using a hot comb or straightener as a vintage lifestylist.


I hope you enjoy the video. Thanks for watching!





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