Monday, September 30, 2019

How to Date in the Modern World as a Traditional Man or Woman

Ghosting, bread crumbing, orbiting, DM sliding, bird boxing and swiping. This description may sound like something straight out of a haunted house that’s now been renovated as a café shop with peculiar decor. In actuality, it’s neither a haunted house nor a café shop. It’s in fact the dating trends of the current modern times. If we throw “Netflix and chill” in there maybe it’ll sound more comfortable. Actually not so comfortable. It’s still scary!

Dating in the modern world can be tough, especially for the traditional person. It’s even more of a challenge if you’re shy and not good with socializing. Due to progressive modernism, traditional values of dating and relationships are now literally something of the past. Traditional dating values are not encouraged and practiced much anymore in the Western world and this causes a lot of confusion, loss and an odd way of dating in today’s culture.  

Our modern culture values over-sexualization especially in dating world. Many women who are under the influence of feminism seek out masculine traits in dating and thus engage in casual sexuality. This energy twitch results in men assuming most women are sexually available without commitment. The dating world is edgy with random hook-ups – or sexual encounters. There are a lot more players out there who believe they have lots of time to play the field before settling down and committing to an everlasting, loving relationship. Little do they know the playing field becomes very slim as we get older. (Click here to read how disastrous dating becomes as we get older in this generation.)

Hang on! There’s still hope in the dating world! There are many traditional folks out there who embrace traditional values in dating and relationships but they are a challenge to find. Not everyone is about sending an unsolicited “pic” late at night. The best advice is to avoid the “disgust” that comes with the modern dating world and really seek out another conservative person.  I will share another blog post on traditional dating values from the vintage times soon. But for now, I have a list of how to find your true love in the midst of the crazy dating world listed below.

1. Set Your Intention – you want to state what you are seeking in a relationship in a pleasant, reasonable way. You want to let the person you’re dating know commitment, marriage and family is something you’d like in your future. Try not to be overbearing of course! Let them know what your intention is right away. Usually commitment and the idea of marriage scare off most players and time-wasters.

2. Align Your Values – You want to become familiar with the person’s values. I usually drop slight hints my traditional persona. You can talk and ask questions about your views on certain topics. It doesn’t have to become a political debate, but ask simple questions or observe their values.

3. Don’t Rush to Bed – Just save it ‘til commitment and marriage! With the sex-crazed culture that’s occurring there are many folks out there that literally pretend to date just to get a spot in your bed and then reject you afterwards. 

4. Observe their Efforts – Are they putting in much effort obtaining you? Is the man you’re dating really pursuing you? Is the woman you like fully engaging and accepting you? If it feels you’re giving more than receiving, it may be a red flag that the person may not be entirely interested in dating you.

5. Expect Rejection – As a traditional person we’re going to experience rejection at some point. We must face it. The modern culture doesn’t call for traditional living or values anymore because it doesn’t align with modern mindsets. Being traditional is extremely unfamiliar to some individuals and they feel comfortable with liberal-like thinking. I know rejection can be unbearable, and I will be sharing a new blog post in the near future on how to handle rejection.

6. Don’t Stay in No Man’s Land – “No Man’s Land” refers to the space between a friendship and commitment. The “relationship” sort of stays unmoving without any type of commitment happening except benefits. A lot of people end up in this zone due to loneliness, boredom or fear of being single. So they take whatever comes along including no-strings-attached type of deal and are aware of how much time this wastes.

The significant key in dating in the modern world is to avoid wasting time and to really acknowledge what you want within a relationship. You must catch on early in the relationship of how you two align together.

Best wishes! xoxo

Sunday, September 15, 2019

1960's Matilda Peplum Wiggle Vintage Inspired Dress Review | Heart of Haute

I debated very hard on purchasing this dress. I left it in my online shopping cart for a few weeks. I kept changing my mind constantly on why I don’t need it or why I should just buy it. Ordering a dress online anyway is a little bit of a gamble at times – you never know how it’s going to fit or really appear until it arrives and you try it on. Not with this dress! After a few weeks of eyeballing it online, I finally placed the order and it arrived a few days later. I tried it on and to my surprise it fits perfectly and looks authentic!

Welcome back to another dress review! In this post I will be discussing about the lovely vintage inspired 1960’s Matilda Peplum Wiggle Dress by Heart of Haute (formerly Heartbreaker). This dress can be dressed up 1950's style too!

I ordered this dress back in December 2018 and didn’t get a chance to wear it due to the wintertime here in Illinois. I figured I’d start wearing it as soon as it warms up. I wore it for the first time to a dinner for Mother’s Day back in May. I dressed it up 1950’s style.

I spent the afternoon back in the spring with a friend capturing these photos at The Inn at Market Square of Zion.

The dress comes in black, blue and red-wine. It features an adorable neck tie-bow that can be styled in many ways. The dress has a comfortable wiggle fit with lots of room to breathe and accentuates curves naturally without appearing too obvious. I'm wearing size medium.

This dress is practical and can be worn for many different occasions – if dressed up the right way for that particular occasion. You can give it a complete vintage look with a vintage hat and gloves for a photo shoot or a day out in vintage-style. It can be worn to church or to work with a simple pair of flats or heels. This is definitely a dinner date dress!

I like to say that it appears 1960’s due to its above-the-knee length, which became a trend in the early 1960’s. It has a very fitted wiggle style which feels very 1950’s. The cute neck tie-bow definitely states 1960’s as little bows were popular in fashion and hair accessories. It also feels like a boat neck style of the 1950’s as well.

The dress features an invisible zipper in the back which gives an authentic feel. 

Has a very feminine, adorable appeal. It doesn’t even need many accessories to make it stand out. It can be worn in any season, especially the black colored version. 

You can search for Heart of Haute 1960's Matilda Peplum Wiggle Dress to see what's available out there for purchase. This dress is from the Teresa Marie Studios collection by Heart of Haute

Full Outfit Details

Dress: Heart of Haute

Year: 1960's reproduction

Heels: Steve Madden

Hat & Gloves: 1950's authentic

Location: Zion, Illinois

Photos by: Benjamin Scott

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Wednesday, September 11, 2019

Four (4) Ways to Reject Modernism (Progression)

When we think of rejecting modernism, we often think of technology. Technology isn’t the only entity to reject from modernism. As I mentioned in the video below, there are hundreds of things that can be rejected from modernism to make life simpler and wholesome. Perhaps I may make a list of these things in a future post.

In a previous blog post I discussed the meaning between modern and traditional. You can check out the post here. To sum it up, modernism seeks to intentionally break and destroy tradition in terms of politics, religion, art, literature, architecture, ways of living and ways of thinking. In other words, modernism introduces new innovation, new ideas, individualistic thinking, social expression and advancement of society while tradition sticks to a dominant pre-destined way of life.

Rejecting progressive modernism is not accepting what the world has to offer. Progression in society happens rapidly causing us to advance in new ways of thinking and technology at high-speed rate. This has been going on over the decades; modernism isn’t a “new thing” in the 2000’s. Traditional folks who reject modernism acknowledge if it’s in God’s Will or humanly to do so of what they’re rejecting. The modern world offers so much convenience, excitement and communication than ever before. However, what we’re embracing can be defacing. Convenience can lead to complexity. Simplicity leads to less stress.

Rejecting modernism can be tough especially for the younger generation. We’ve been ingrained to utilize technology and machinery from such an early age that dismissing it would be like losing an arm. It takes practice and patience to get used to using less of technology. The key to rejecting modernism is using less or not using at all. The less; the better. One rule of thumb to remember is that in order to fight modernism one must use modernism. It’s like fighting fire with fire.

Below is a video where I discuss four overlooked ways to reject modernism. Remember, the less the better!

Monday, September 09, 2019

10 Valuable Tips for New and Aspiring Housewives | Traditional Living

Hello wonderful readers! Welcome back to another blog post. In this article I wish to give some helpful insight to new and aspiring homemakers on starting their new lives in the traditional sense of being a homemaker.

The key to preparing to become a homemaker and understand motherhood is by practicing. Yes practice! There are many ways to start practicing homemaking. You can definitely practice while being single. You can start by doing small chores in your apartment or house daily, babysitting or working at a daycare. If you live at home currently, you can help your parents or grandparents at home too.

I’ve been blessed to have experienced being somewhat of a “homemaker” in my younger years as well as over the years as I helped my parents and taking on homemaking jobs.. I've had lots of years of practice. I learned important tasks and ways of managing the home that I hope will help you in your own home. Some of us have never managed or have taken care of a home or family before...and it’s alright! There are lots of resources to help you get started.

The reason you are a homemaker is not only because of God’s Will for you, but because you also possess the skills and talent to create a clean, well-organized, happy sanctuary for your family and guests. Remember, a home is a place that is prepared and a house is just a structured building.

Before I begin, I’d like to also mention that as a new or aspiring homemaker it’s not about showing off our lifestyle or vintage-inspired living. It’s so easy to get caught up with snapping and posting photos of our lives and communicate with followers and friends throughout the day. Being a homemaker isn’t about just shopping, being bored and perfection like how modernity depicts it. In reality, a homemaker deals with order, home management, child care and combating clutter. Your days will never be “perfect” but should be well-managed and prepared. You will develop a sense of “order” of the home as time progresses. 

I hope these valuable tips help you dearly! Well – continue reading below for the 10 tips on how to "practice" and get ready for your new Godly calling. . .

1. Buy cookbooks and practice creating meals – Preparing meals is the most essential role of the homemaker. You want your food to be well prepared and to taste good of course! If you’ve been used to cooking for yourself, grab a couple of cookbooks and practice making healthy, delicious meals. It’s also a good idea to have someone “taste test” your food just to be sure it’s tastes good – or not too salty – or needs more seasoning! Have this person be a trusted friend or relative that can sincerely help.

2. Take a shower right before bed – This might sound generic, but most of us have been guilty of skipping a shower in our single lives. Now that we’re sharing our space with a new family, it’s a good idea to take a shower right before getting into the bed to help eliminate trapped odors from the bed in the morning.

3. Don’t make up your bed right away after getting up – This tip sort of correlates with the last tip. Opening the windows first thing in the morning before making up the bed helps with eliminating trapped odors from the bed and room from overnight. Allow lots of sunshine, natural light and fresh air to flow through. I usually make my bed up about an hour after opening up my windows. If you've been use to making up your bed right away after getting up, get into the habit of this chore.

4. Keep your drawers well organized – Organize clothes and items in dresser and chest drawers about once a week. Since drawers are used often clothes start to become disorganized overtime, especially clothes sitting at the bottom or in the back. You can do this daily as well.

 5. Consider wearing an apron – For the modern housewife, this may seem old-fashioned but to the vintage lifestyle housewife this may seem like a golden ticket. Well you both are considered “old-fashioned” either way in the modern world! Wearing an apron helps with cleaning off hands in between dirty jobs, as well as cleaning up spills or stains. Aprons were a significant treasure in the homemaker’s life during the old-fashioned days.

6. Wash the walls and baseboards – This is important step that may be overlooked by newbie homemakers. Cleaning the walls and baseboards are important to eliminate dust, dirt and stains overtime. Trust me; this is where dust collects and hides the most unknowingly.

7. Clean the fans – If you have a fan (standing, oscillating, table top or box fan) clean it regularly. Fans collect a ton of dust each day that blows back around the space which can cause allergies and more build-up of dust. Most fans are easy to take apart to clean. I recommend cleaning the fan outside if possible, so that way the dust falls outside.

8. Learn budgeting and finances – Budgeting will be an important component in your homemaking life. I suggest creating a simple filing system for budgeting and finances such as coupons, receipts, savings, cash envelopes, and expenditures. It will be imperative to understand how the finances are being handled to live a simple life. The last thing you’d want is stress due to overspending. It’ll also relieve your husband from less work to do. If you are currently single and have no clue about finances - it's best to pick up a book or reputable online resource to help you manage budgeting and spending.

9. Consider gardening or growing your own food – Growing your own food is such a wonderful blessing from the Lord and nature. You can be able to know what goes into your food practically and it can also boost healthier eating. You can create a small indoor or outdoor garden with your favorite veggies. Plus gardening is such a relaxing, nurturing process.

10. Create a schedule – Creating a schedule around cleaning, errands and shopping for supplies and groceries will help tremendously with organizing your day. You can create a schedule of different tasks for each day, or stick to the same tasks for each day – whichever you perceive needs the most attention in the household. Do what works best for you!

This list can go on and on and on…but I figured it’s the little things that matter as I created this list. I’d love to create more helpful tips in the future as well. The older women in our generation as well as vintage and historical women are the best resources to starting off as a wife and mother. Be sure to let not modern society discourage you in any shape or form in your new life! Always continue to learn and grow. Best wishes! xoxo