When we ask little girls or teenage girls what they hope to become when they grow up, we usually hear responses such as “a lawyer!” “an astronaut!” “a teacher!” “a doctor!” or “a business woman!”. We never hear a young girl say I want to be “a mother!” or “a homemaker!” anymore.
Why is this?
With progressive liberalism occurring in the modern Western world, many young women, including myself, have been indoctrinated to take on masculine roles. Women are celebrated when they appear to be strong, independent, career-driven women. However, housewives and stay-at-home mothers are seen as weak, lack of ambition and a failure. Feminism is extremely embedded so deeply in society that we are conditioned to believe a woman must hold a high career path in order to be taken seriously.
I’ve been conditioned into this indoctrination. I was blind, but now I see. Here’s my personal story on how I attempted to be a high-ambitious career girl to an aspiring vintage housewife. I hope this story inspires you to really see beyond society’s strict standards of what a modern woman should be.
In the beginning, after high school, I desired earning a degree like every other modern person. I felt it was the right thing to do – like everyone else. I felt pressured that a degree is necessary in order to earn a top-notch paying job and to stand out against the crowd in the competitive workforce. I was conditioned to believe women ought to be financially independent – that is – have their own place, own car, own money in the bank account and can be able to afford their own traveling, shopping and expenses.
Little did I know myself as I walked off the stage with my new Bachelor’s degree in hand. I was conditioned to believe the lies of what modern society promotes for young women to believe.
Let’s go back a little further. I started working my first job at fourteen years old. It was an easy job for a teenager…it consisted of community service work around my town. That’s when I realized the workforce felt strange to me. Anxiety would rush in. I simply didn’t understand at that age what was going on. Since my early days of working I always felt out-of-place – as if I didn’t belong in the place I was working. I didn’t feel like workforce material. Unfortunately, while growing up I was only taught one choice of life which was to work and create an independent life for myself. As society also encouraged this, I did as told.
career in show business. I even went the hardcore career-woman route and enrolled in graduate school and received my Master’s degree within three years. After receiving my graduate degree I felt I can finally enter the workforce and obtain the job I really wanted of teaching community college. I figured having this degree would definitely allow me to stand out against other candidates…yeah like thousands of other candidates. Ha!
I then moved to Los Angeles and worked in theatre for a few months. After leaving Los Angeles I did some deep soul searching and realized my God-given gift of domesticated skills. Living at home over the years helped contributed to this realization as well.
I finally realized my calling and my energy shifted. I conducted research on how the housewife is no longer desired or appreciated in modern times. It’s like I was born in the wrong time period where being a mother and helper to my husband is no longer accepted.
If you feel this way, you are not alone. I believe women should continue having a choice of either being a career women or mothers. Feminism got it all wrong – every woman was not oppressed or trying to seek fulfillment by competing with men in the workplace. Women only wanted to be recognized, admired and given the same attention as their male counterparts while running a household. If you went down the same path of putting in effort to become an independent career woman, I feel for you. There’s still time and there’s still hope. Connect with me and I can help guide you back to God’s will.
It’s unfortunate to say that the modern American culture does give women a choice anymore. If you desire to be a mother or homemaker you are immediately the devil or weird. Feminism has led us to believe that serving our employer is freedom but serving our husband and children is slavery. Just nearly 50 years ago, women were expected to manage a household and children as a traditional value. Now today, women are expected to manage their career and give less attention to their household and children. What flipped the switch?!
Proverbs 14:1 couldn’t state it better: every a wise woman builds her home; a foolish woman plucketh it down with her hands. Plucketh means to tear down.
I will have plenty more blog posts about homemaking tips and how to become traditional. Be sure to follow via Instagram for more vintage life.